Why is it that so many people get flustered when you ask them to elaborate? It’s as if we’re all expected to just accept any statements as fact without detail. I think that if you’re trying to convince me of something, you should be willing to explain why I should believe you. It’s almost funny how a question as simple as “Why?” can apparently be so frustrating.
“I hate Windows.”
“Why?”
“Because Windows sucks.”
“Why?”
“Because [insert name of program] [insert random non-OS-related action].”
“You do realize that has nothing to do with Windows, that it’s that program’s fault, right?”
“Oh you know what I mean.”
Actually, I don’t know what you mean. I do think it’s pretty obvious that you’re making generalizations about something you don’t really have a firm grasp of, though.
And so there I sit, apparently sounding like an asshole because I pointed out their ignorance instead of nodding complacently. I don’t like ignorant statements. I know I make them occasionally (more often than I’d like, unfortunately), and when I do, I would very much like to have it pointed out so I don’t make a fool of myself again in the future.
It may be polite to smile and nod, but I think it’s better in the long run to point it out. I know if somebody was blaming me for things that had nothing to do with me, I’d want somebody to set them straight.
I find that asking “Why?” will usually:
A) help to expose the fact that they don’t really know what they’re talking about and have no real argument
or
B) help them to strengthen their argument by actually using valid points instead of unsupported generalizations.
Either way, I believe the question is beneficial, and I think it should be asked a lot more often.



